Doing anything worthwhile requires effort. There is no way around it. If you truly want to do something unique and personal, you can’t rely on existing solutions without giving up joy of achievement. It’s hard to join “I” with something that came off assembly line with a price tag.
Accept the struggle. Live it and feel it. Find the time to rest, find the time to think, but when it is time to perform – perform. Keep doing. Keep building. Keep following the plan.
And don’t be afraid to fail. Every big success was preceded by big failures. But no success happened to those that stopped trying.
For most of us, fault is always external. Whenever things go south, it’s always – circumstances, other people, chance and whatnot that caused misfortune. Majority will gladly walk down the path on which blame is always attached to others.
You go in opposite direction. Whenever something bad happens – figure out how it was your fault. What is it that you could’ve done that would’ve produced better outcome? Do that and you’ll see how easy it is to make a difference. While others are running away from it – you embrace responsibility and wield it to make your life better.
In a crazed, judgmental world isolation can seem like a blessing. Not participating in countless dramas that are going around every moment, is alone attractive lure. But it is never about the whole world. It’s always about the world around you. Who you choose to share your moments with.
Let the company you keep define you. Be proud of people you spend time with. Find those who are helpful to you, and be even more helpful to them. Sharpen your skills and focus, not in blind service to yourself; but to serve those who serve you. Do that, and motivation won’t be a problem. Find your tribe.
We all wish we were someone else. But we can’t be. You were born with certain qualities. You practiced certain qualities. You embody certain qualities.
You can’t run from who you are. So, embrace it. Let all those who misunderstand or hate you do their job. You do yours. Use qualities you have to complete work that awaits you. Don’t wish that you, opportunities or world are different. Work with what you have to go in direction you want. That’s all there is to it.
Healthy dose of fear is good. It helps you from abruptly abandoning good commitments you’ve made and invested time in. But, there is no point in living in constant fear. If there is something bothering you – put the damn work in and solve it.
And if there is something you can’t solve it no matter how much effort you put in – accept it. Don’t whine and complain about it. Use that energy to improve other things in your life. There is always a way to improve. Find a path between things you can’t change and things you are too scared to change.
You won’t accomplish much in life if you work only when you feel good. In your every day find something to do regardless of how you feel. Not only will you knock a thing off your to-do list, but you will feel better for accomplishing meaningful goal.
If you feel bad regardless of your great performance – sure – it is time to think, question priorities and decide what to change. But don’t let cursed human ungratefulness knock you of the path. Do your work and feel good about it. Then do it again. And again. And again. Until you can look back and marvel at all obstacles crashed by persistent effort of your will.
Before starting each new day, have clarity on what is it that you will do. Don’t allow laziness, boredom or familiarity hold you down. Be clear on your goals and make them happen.
Hone your strengths and practice them daily. It can be tedious – doing same things again and again. But it can also be joyful – practicing what you know and making your living by doing it. Decide that you will not slave to impulses. That when you know what is it you need doing, you’ll simply do it and create new value. Value that will help improve your and lives around you.
You should use your feelings as a loose compass rather than a certain guide on the path of happiness. Sometimes temporarily setbacks are way better than instant success for your long term well being.
Feeling of disappointment is a great gauge – showing you the need to change something. But that’s where it’s utility stops. There is no point in wallowing and complaining. The true happiness starts only when you are dealing with problems, not reliving them.
In a world full of creation it’s easy to feel as if nothing you do truly matters. Like you are a cog in a rusted machinery of today, spinning around without much purpose.
But you are making a difference. No matter how small, your influence is changing the world. Find a way to make your actions positive and act as if their impact is already great. And while working, remember: there are no unrealistic dreams, only unrealistic deadlines.
If you are not struggling, you are not improving. If it’s too easy, you need to fight harder. If it’s too hard, you need to rethink your approach. And once you are in the struggle zone you can handle, enjoy and keep fighting. Get better.
Do not allow your life to become too hard, but also don’t allow it to become too easy. Figure out meaningful work for yourself and once you do have plan – follow it. Own it up, figure it out and forever keep yourself on path of improvement.