For most of us, fault is always external. Whenever things go south, it’s always – circumstances, other people, chance and whatnot that caused misfortune. Majority will gladly walk down the path on which blame is always attached to others.
You go in opposite direction. Whenever something bad happens – figure out how it was your fault. What is it that you could’ve done that would’ve produced better outcome? Do that and you’ll see how easy it is to make a difference. While others are running away from it – you embrace responsibility and wield it to make your life better.
In a crazed, judgmental world isolation can seem like a blessing. Not participating in countless dramas that are going around every moment, is alone attractive lure. But it is never about the whole world. It’s always about the world around you. Who you choose to share your moments with.
Let the company you keep define you. Be proud of people you spend time with. Find those who are helpful to you, and be even more helpful to them. Sharpen your skills and focus, not in blind service to yourself; but to serve those who serve you. Do that, and motivation won’t be a problem. Find your tribe.
We all wish we were someone else. But we can’t be. You were born with certain qualities. You practiced certain qualities. You embody certain qualities.
You can’t run from who you are. So, embrace it. Let all those who misunderstand or hate you do their job. You do yours. Use qualities you have to complete work that awaits you. Don’t wish that you, opportunities or world are different. Work with what you have to go in direction you want. That’s all there is to it.
Healthy dose of fear is good. It helps you from abruptly abandoning good commitments you’ve made and invested time in. But, there is no point in living in constant fear. If there is something bothering you – put the damn work in and solve it.
And if there is something you can’t solve it no matter how much effort you put in – accept it. Don’t whine and complain about it. Use that energy to improve other things in your life. There is always a way to improve. Find a path between things you can’t change and things you are too scared to change.