Give in and surrender, so you can focus on things that matter

In today’s opinionated world the worst thing one can do is get lost in countless battles that are around us. Who would be the best president? Which sports team deserves most attention and recognition? What is the ideal form of government? Why is group A attacking group B and who is right there?

Those who managed to educate themselves and focus their brain understand that most of the questions most of the people ask themselves most of the day are completely irrelevant. Yet, those questions are the ones people answer every day in their heads over and over. Until they are lost and drained of willpower.

Consciously decide what topics interest you. Do not let advertisements, TV or yet another yelling idiot take you off your path. Do not let someone else decide what you will be thinking about during your day. Reign in your brain and focus it on topics that interest you.

Be especially careful about giving your time and interest to other people. One of the easiest ways to drain your willpower is to get involved in confrontations with others over trivial things. Integrate others into your plans but don’t depend on them. Focus on your production and things you can do, not others.

When you know what is important for you – follow the advice – give in and surrender. Everything that you decided not to be worth of your time, simply fold and surrender. Do what needs to be done, so you can take a loss and move on. Only then will you be able to double down on things that lead you ahead. Only then will you be free to embrace the grind that leads you to toward path of happiness, secluded from pointless arguments. Only when you surrender what you don’t care about can you fight for what you do care about.

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Surrender: Lack of direction, not lack of time is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days -Zig Ziglar

Lack of direction, not lack of time is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days -Zig Ziglar


23 thoughts on “Give in and surrender, so you can focus on things that matter

  1. Thank you for the reminder. I have been working on this. I’m pretty good most of the time, but there are those times when…
    Anyway, great post! Love it!

  2. Thank you for this post. I think I really needed to hear that just now. It is difficult, though, if other people are talking about one thing, to tell them, “This isn’t what I want to focus on; let’s talk about something different”. Any ideas on how to do that?

    • Oh, I have so much to say on that subject ;). But since I’m just heading out to a meeting, here is my favorite video on the subject… let me know if it helps and we can discuss it further after you watch it and I’m done with meeting.

      • Wow, that was very interesting! Surprising, too – like what he says about decision, but when I think about it, he’s right; it’s happened to me many times! I think he does have good tips, although saying no all the time can’t ever be easy….

        • Well – saying no isn’t easy… but it gets easier. Especially if you can vividly see your own priorities.

          Are you struggling with something concrete in your life? There is a person you can’t say no to? If you can give me details I’ll gladly provide my viewpoint on it.

    • Hopefully you can find other people who share your passions… I’m sure that’s one of the biggest reasons for depression epidemic – people not being able to find others who they can truly share their inner most feelings with.

  3. It’s always important to keep our focus intact and keep our minds clear so that we don’t get carried away with external factors / thoughts. Although, it’s slight difficult to do this in the midst of the demanding times, but worthy enough to give it a try.

  4. Important reminders! I am challenged by caring about many things, but I must prioritize and focus on things I can do something about and things that feed me more than drain me.For example, sitting in meetings drains me. Things like singing and volunteering with children, animals, and community art projects feed my spirit. Thank you for helping me clarify and remember this.

    • Yeah – it’s only work if you’ll rather be doing something else. I’m always stunned by witnessing how some people can make demanding work look like play. I wish we all were able to find things that feed us and be able to turn it into a career.

  5. Great post. It’s just so easy to get sucked into meaningless arguments, especially over things you don’t ever think about until that moment.

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